You have the power

Winston Churchill said, the price of greatness is responsibility.

When I read this quote, I was clapping hands and singing loudly. If you know me, you will know that I am in constant pursuit of greatness.

Just a quick summary of our greatness training:

  1. G – goals/ gifts/ gratitude
  2. R – reflect/ review/ realign
  3. E – essence/ energy/ excellence
  4. A – awareness/ ability/ attitude
  5. T – trust/ truth

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Mindset work makes me happy and that is why I am excited about this blog.

I had a kick in the butt this week, by a fellow entrepreneur. Now this lady doesn’t let grass grow under her feet, she is quick, efficient and challenging. Her question in her facebook group was, how are you growing your business or are a complaining about not having clients? Are you reaching your monthly goals or whining again about lack of time and to much things happening?

I was that complaining entrepreneur and I told her about my challenges and struggles. I wasn’t even done and she told me to remove the words challenge and struggles from my vocabulary. I wanted to curl up in the foetal position and lick my wounds. But she wasn’t done yet. She asked me how am I creating daily business and I had no idea. But she gave me this best advice.

I will get to the advice in a moment.

You see, we get stuck in a loop of negative thoughts, words, actions and behaviours. The loop continues without us even realising it. And then we get addicted to these thought patterns and we feel sorry for ourselves. We begin comparing ourselves to others. And we fall victim to the game of have and have nots.

I was there this week. In a terrible loop of the money I don’t have. The clients which are not coming. And I felt terribly sorry for myself.

And then I got my butt kicked into action.

So the advice that was given to me by this fellow entrepreneur, begin each day by creating your business. Ask yourself this question: in what 3-5 creative ways can I get new clients today.

The penny dropped and I came to the realisation that I wasn’t actively creating my business. I was feeling sorry for myself.

I became stuck in a fixed mindset. And this mindset was weighing me down. I had to give this up.

For the last two weeks I was invested in understanding mindset.

Mindset is defined as the established set of attitudes held by someone.

Mindset is a collection of beliefs and thoughts.

The synonyms for mindset are: angle, attitude, outlook, perspective

Skills you writes, having a growth mindset (the belief that you are in control of your own ability and can learn and improve) is the key to success. The underlying belief is that you are in control of your own destiny.

I have researched the work of Dr. Carol Dweck (the lady who coined the terms fixed and growth mindset) and Dr. Caroline Leaf. They both have done numerous research in the field of mindset.

Mindset is a rather complicated, but fundamental part of your being. It can either let you fly and move into the space where you dream of being or it can weigh you down and cause frustration. 

When I was caught in my loop of negativity and feeling sorry for myself, I was stuck in a fixed mindset. This caused frustration with me. It amped up my anxiety and it allowed me to feel extremely sorry for myself.

My kick in the butt has helped me to open up to the possibilities. Once I was open to the possibilities I could once again become creative about my business and what I can offer. 

I am not yet where I dream of being in my business. But the phrase not yet, allows me to be on a learning curve. This learning curve create the path into the future. Dr Carol Dweck taught me about the value of “not yet.” I have not yet reached my 1 million women, but I am on the path to create that.

Not yet is the ability to grow, to move forward, to create.

Not yet allow you to put in effort, to have a strategy and allow yourself the opportunity to show progress.

If you have the perceived idea that you have failed, you cannot move onto the path of the future. You take away the ability to learn something new and you stay stuck in a place of comfort.

Not yet allows you to move into a place of growth and moving out of your comfort zone and into the next level you want to be.

Growth mindset is the understanding that we can develop our abilities and intelligence. Growth mindset leads to a focus on learning, increased effort and a willingness to learn from our mistakes.

You cannot change your life by doing the same things every day. Albert Einstein said, “we can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”

Dr Caroline Leaf has a book called “Think, learn and succeed in life.” This book is on my Amazon wish list. In this book she explains in great detail about mindset and how one goes about changing it.

Mindset is a powerful way of changing your life and creating the life you dream about.

With a growth mindset you get to create your next reality.

If you are not using your mind correctly you may be creating realities in your life which you don’t like.

My friends, today I want to encourage you, with the right mindset, attitude and behaviours it is absolutely possible to change your life and create the life you are dreaming about.

Before I continue with this blog I want to ask you, what thought or belief doesn’t serve you anymore? What weighs you down so that you gave up on flying?

You need to realise what needs to be changed and then you have to train your brain the new thought. This will then become your reality by the words you speak, the routines you implement, the actions that you take and the behaviour you exhibit.

Mindset is about building a thought into your brain. This becomes your reality. 

This thought is the information that you feed your brain. Your emotions (what you feel at the time when you created the thought) and this information creates a powerful dynamic which helps you to create your reality.

I am all about changing your mindset. But before a mindset can be changed, it needs to be understood.

Mindset is powerful. But if you keep moving forward (into growth) and backward (into fixed) this causes frustration. This backward and forward moving is caused by wanting to change to much at any given moment. It takes 28 days for a new habit to become automatic, for your body to do it without thinking about it.

In my own life I want to change about 10 things at a time and I don’t give my body, mind and emotions time to settle in with one new thing. I seek instant gratification. This causes backward and forward mindset movements, which causes frustration and anxiety in my life.

At this moment in time my mindset is like a very bad attitude. My mindset is fixed, pessimistic, overwhelmed and frustrated. Not where I want to be. I am not, as dr Carol Dweck explains on a learning curve, thus I am not creating my future. I am kind of stuck in limbo without much movement.

For this blog I want to help us, myself included to move from a fixed mindset, to a growth mindset. It is so easy to become stuck in a place of limbo.

Having a growth mindset (the belief that I am in control of my own ability) is the key to success. And I don’t know about you, but I want to feel successful and in control of my life and my accomplishments.

Tonya Leigh from The French Kiss Life wrote this in her blog, “The brain will always want to take you back to the familiar. But if you are willing to stay true to who you want to be and your dreams and where you are going and to feel the discomfort of letting go of the old self, it is the most incredible process you will ever go through.

You get to decide the kind of life you want to live. You get to decide what life you are creating.

About Sonika

Sonika Krüger is first of all a mother. She is the owner of Flourish* by Sonika, a Life Coach and a teacher. Flourish* focus on motherhood, lifestyle, personal growth and time management. She shares from her own experiences. She is available for training and speaking engagements. Please follow Flourish* by Sonika on Facebook and Instagram.

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